With the recent advancement in technology these past few centuries, everyone in the world can access information and networking with anyone they desire. The benefits, especially psychological are huge. This gives us the ability to obtain external validity while adding to cultural psychology and understanding the nuances between people of the world, forming friendships, and obtaining priceless amounts of information.
However, with any benefit comes at least a handful of disadvantages. For one, more and more kidnappings are taking place worldwide than ever before. By the time women go to college (usually around 18 years old)in the United States, 1/3 of them will have already been raped at some point in their lives. After college? 75%. The world-wide human trafficking (sex) trade has increased substantially, as has recreational drug use and violence in general. Attention span has decreased within the general population and corruption has increased. The quality of mankind is at a low I have never seen in my lifetime.
I bring this issue to light because it's important for both women and men to realize the importance their actions are having on themselves, others, and future generations. Its no surprise that men and women think differently in social occasions, and thus would think differently in regards to social networks. The problem arises when men manipulate these differences. I am no exception.
As a child of the 90's and an adolescent in the kickoff decade for the 21st century, I've seen and been involved with numerous social networks in all forms and settings. Anyone who has realizes that much talk often becomes flirtatious and sometimes even sexual. Women see this as innocent fun normally, simply because in theory, it is; anonymous flirting cant possibly hurt anyone...at least physically. However, this was back in the early 90's when chat rooms were the main source of internet networking.
In 2011, however, there is an influx of networking sites making it available to meet people in person. Considering the war torn nature of the past few generations (I would argue anyone 70 years+), most Americans have been raised by their mothers or had their fathers leave or die in war. Thus, these men, raised by women, are more understanding to the differences within the sexes. Through time and technology, social interactions have actually decreased. All humans have a sexual drive that has been increased by the advent of pornography (one of largest businesses in America). Thus, with an increase in understanding, a decrease in time interacting with real people, and an increased sexual drive, men must make the best of the little personal time they are given. Naturally, this would involve more rapes, long-period contact including harassment, and obsession. The statistics help prove this untestable hypothesis (ethics violations). There are also a variety of scholarly articles involving the study of this depressing trend in human nature.
Its important to note that the difference in interaction is simple. Women speak in code and diplomacy, or at least one or the other. Men are straightforward, and if you aren't straightforward with them, they assume a position of power. Why have so many men been acquitted on rape charges? Because many raped women who have been taped don't speak up, thus men take advantage. If a woman struggles, fights, and claws her way out of a rape but never yells "stop", he will continue, knowing he can't be incriminated.
The same applies for social settings in general. If a man approaches a woman to dance and she says "no" for whatever reason and refuses to continue talking after he refutes (because he will refute), the man will move on. However, if they were to say, make eye contact and she looks away with a grimace, but keeps dancing, he's going to take control of the situation, since nothing was said, but only implied. Then you have guys who use the internet for meeting members of the opposite sex; these are statistically more insecure, lonely, and vulnerable people than the general population. Naturally the risks these people take to achieve their goals are much larger. I know at least two handfuls of women who have been raped by meeting a "harmless" person online. I know even more who are constantly harassed to this day by those same people who were initially met as kind, well-to-do people.
Yes, the internet has made me friends in other countries...but I'm a male. If someone tries to rape me, I can easily overpower them. I will also never meet these people one on one (usually I'll have an extra friend or two with) and I refuse to speak or meet with women online. Opposite sex relationships are never innocent in every day life with single parties, making the combination of social networking and genuine friendship impossible today. I know this because I was raised by women as well and thus know the mindsets between both sexes, allowing me to write this explanatory blog. Statistically, women are predated significantly more than men. Men also commit the majority of social networking crimes. Thus, my role as a male reduces my chances of danger exponentially more than if I were a female, and even so, I make sure to take every precaution necessary.
The fact is, every person online should be assumed harmful until proven otherwise. Millions of people on "relationship" areas of websites or on relationship websites are there to meet someone and have sex with them, or at the very least sexual contact. Hell, even my girlfriend was recently contacted by some older creep trying to flirt with her through e-mail. Being a woman, she replied in short, hinted tones. Being a man, there wasn't an outright "no" or "stop", so he assumed control of the situation (sexually and implicitly, of course) until she became uncomfortable and finally replied "stop". It was hard to explain the situation to her while being upset at the same time. I'm sure it seemed like I was angry another man was hollering, but she's sexy and I'd holler too if I was single. On the contrary, I wasn't mad at her (what college kid hasn't done a potentially dangerous dare?), but mad at him and guys in general.
You see, guys like that are now becoming the "norm" in our society. Men in general are using their power to manipulate women for their benefit. Women, ignorant (not by fault), innocent, and generally thoughtful of others' feelings, may think they are sending a man away when through his eyes they are asking for more. Men do not see beyond the surface; they merely see what women make them see. Sadly, enough women do not speak up. Many women, knowing their frailty, will let a rape happen without letting the man know of her disappointment for two reasons 1) she knows that showing her displeasure gives him satisfaction, thus refuses. 2) she thinks(knows) that since no one is immediately around to save her or if she gets raped, screaming and such won't help. I reject this conclusion using the same cause of the problem as the solution: technology. With advanced forensics and micro-medias, many rape victims can actually identify their assailant through technological means rather than a lineup (which is very unreliable). The same goes for sexual harassment in both public and cyber settings. The same applies for social networking. If sexual harassment, physical or emotional takes place, the beauty of e-mail tracking and written documents can easily incriminate the assailant.
Segues aside, women in America today have more opportunities and thus are more independent. In reaction to their previous abuses, many women are taking "independence" to the extreme today, refusing companionship from anyone, let alone the world-ruling men. These men become frustrated at the lack of women available. This frustration combined with violent pornography and "cyber" friends forms men who steal from, manipulate, rape, and hate our women.
Assuming education can be increased, proper systems can be put into place to prevent the dangers of cyberspace. However, the social damages have already been done. Less information is entering our brains, keeping us ignorant. The information we do receive is mind altering in the most negative of ways, including increased aggression, fear, and domination.
Women need to stop being naive and believing there can be single men in this world with whom they can be alone many times while retaining a neutral friendship. Men need to be real men: No more taking advantage of women's minds; No more dominating those weaker than you; No more trying to obtain relationships online. The world has more than 6 billion people, walk outside and grow a personality if you want sex without having to take it.
This leads to the ultimate question: Has our evolution of technology been more beneficial than harmful to mankind? With a review of the literature mentioned above, I assert that technology has taken away from western societies significantly more than it has given. Sadly, this trend has no signs of slowing in the future. As these technologies reach third world countries, rates of aggression, violence, sexual assault and rape are starting to increase. This is no coincidence. However, the fact remains that the general population cannot control this influx of technological advancement and societal decline. Therefore, education is and will continue to be first and foremost of importance when it comes to teaching our society about the perils of cyberspace in all of its forms. In another 50 years I am more than confident that if a majority of the free world isn't brainwashed, the amount of negative consequences compared to the benefits of cyberspace will become evident to the general population.
So, would I give up our technological advancement and cyberspace in order to preserve the less aggressive, less manipulative, more social, more communioned, though less global society? Without a doubt. I don't believe the civilian who has never left his state or country will use the purposes of these global services appropriately. If you want to be global, go into a global market or workforce. If you want to find people to steal money from or women to take advantage of or buy, you now have the luxury of accessing millions of people from all over the world from the comfort of your own home.
This is coming from a young adult in America who uses the internet every day. I'm sick of having a lower age than the number of rape victims I know. I'm sick of my advancement in psychology relying on the pain and suffering others are exposed to. I'm sick of this society that measures morals with thought and desires with action. Step up your game, America, or you won't be around for long.
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
The Psychology of the Great Recession
Back in 2007, I was attending my senior year at Magic City High School in Minot, North Dakota. Near the end of the year I predicted a massive fall of government and, consequently, the American economy and lifestyle in general. I was a year early (and correct) with my prediction. Some may ask what the connection is between a government of 2 million people and 300 million citizens? Let me explain.
Anywhere between 1.2-1.5 million military members are active duty. Another one million plus work as "civil servants", or "non-essential personnel". Once Bush came into office in 2000 (with a governmental SURPLUS), the war, combined with lack of societal expansion, significantly hindered our social progress as a nation. However, most civilians were neither poor nor heavily effected by those who were. This caused the populous to blindly watch as the Bush administration and Congress did what they pleased. Eventually, the Federal Reserve, also known as FED (a private corporation, not federal at all), started printing the money you and I use. Even today, April 6, 2010, over $1 billion in U.S. currency is printed daily, thus reducing the worth of the dollar (rise in inflation) while driving up prices of local markets, thus reducing local commerce.
With Obama came a black face and a demographic vote. I can proudly laugh at Obama today because in 2008 I was a "racist" for not wanting a black guy to win. It didn't matter that I also didn't want the white guy to win...nor that I didn't vote. As we all know, with politics, people's political ideas are generally rock solid or highly hypocritical (usually both). Malleability is not a characteristic one uses to describe American politics very often.
At any rate, I had the opportunity to watch Bush fail. I had the opportunity to watch Obama fail. Then the tea-party came and I had the opprtunity to watch them become corrupt like the rest and then fail. Now Congress is discussing the first furlough since 1996. If I were using Social Security to pay off government debt and was pouring money into a war and through a scandalous insatiable system of back-door monetary trades, I'd have a hard time making a good budget, too.
For those of you unfamiliar with a furlough, let me explain. Basically, the President and the federal government gets shut down. They work without pay, while civilians who work for the military, also known as "non-essential personnel" ranging from secretaries to doctors, are fired. That's about 800k layoffs and one million people who are in harms way every day not getting paid. Those soldiers dying for political agenda in Iraq still? No pay. The soldiers fighting against "terrorism" in Afghanistan? No pay.
Naturally, a furlough isn't the correct solution, but I want to condemn those who are responsible for this. You see, there aren't a "lack of jobs". With six billion people worldwide, how are there none available? My sister is teaching English in South Korea with a pre-law degree because there were no jobs here. Millions of manual labour jobs are being outsourced. If we want jobs in America, we, as a nation of 300 million must WORK! If we want government to stop being corrupt, stop spending hours a day watching propaganda (as the average American watches 8 hours of t.v. each day). First, become informed, then you can complain and still garner respect. Last but not least, to become as powerful as we once were, we need to quit individualism temporarily. When everyone is looking to provide for themselves, its easy for government to start multiple wars, spend your money, and do things that the nation disapproves of. But if the nation is fighting to feed its 300 million neighbors, government will quickly realize who is in charge of this country.
Let me be clear that I do not blame Obama nor the government for our current state of affairs...nor do I blame Bush. I blame you. I blame the 300 million American citizens that thought voting for a different politician would change politics. I blame you, the Americans who retained "Hope" in the middle of a rich, black vs. rich, white race. I blame you, the Americans who watch more than you read, allowing new information to constantly pass you by. I blame those of you who arrogantly purport news stories you've heard, forgetting that propaganda has been systematically documented for such channels as FOX, CBS, and CNN. I blame you, Americans, for letting your government do what they wanted while you remained complacent. I blame you, Americans, for complaining while doing nothing. And I blame you, politicians who have let your nation down in every possible manner. We should all be ashamed of ourselves, for while the government dwells on the tragedy of an issue they're not affected by, we sit here and talk about "what if".
If we are truly citizens of the United States, we will take back our country.
-Sanstout
Anywhere between 1.2-1.5 million military members are active duty. Another one million plus work as "civil servants", or "non-essential personnel". Once Bush came into office in 2000 (with a governmental SURPLUS), the war, combined with lack of societal expansion, significantly hindered our social progress as a nation. However, most civilians were neither poor nor heavily effected by those who were. This caused the populous to blindly watch as the Bush administration and Congress did what they pleased. Eventually, the Federal Reserve, also known as FED (a private corporation, not federal at all), started printing the money you and I use. Even today, April 6, 2010, over $1 billion in U.S. currency is printed daily, thus reducing the worth of the dollar (rise in inflation) while driving up prices of local markets, thus reducing local commerce.
With Obama came a black face and a demographic vote. I can proudly laugh at Obama today because in 2008 I was a "racist" for not wanting a black guy to win. It didn't matter that I also didn't want the white guy to win...nor that I didn't vote. As we all know, with politics, people's political ideas are generally rock solid or highly hypocritical (usually both). Malleability is not a characteristic one uses to describe American politics very often.
At any rate, I had the opportunity to watch Bush fail. I had the opportunity to watch Obama fail. Then the tea-party came and I had the opprtunity to watch them become corrupt like the rest and then fail. Now Congress is discussing the first furlough since 1996. If I were using Social Security to pay off government debt and was pouring money into a war and through a scandalous insatiable system of back-door monetary trades, I'd have a hard time making a good budget, too.
For those of you unfamiliar with a furlough, let me explain. Basically, the President and the federal government gets shut down. They work without pay, while civilians who work for the military, also known as "non-essential personnel" ranging from secretaries to doctors, are fired. That's about 800k layoffs and one million people who are in harms way every day not getting paid. Those soldiers dying for political agenda in Iraq still? No pay. The soldiers fighting against "terrorism" in Afghanistan? No pay.
Naturally, a furlough isn't the correct solution, but I want to condemn those who are responsible for this. You see, there aren't a "lack of jobs". With six billion people worldwide, how are there none available? My sister is teaching English in South Korea with a pre-law degree because there were no jobs here. Millions of manual labour jobs are being outsourced. If we want jobs in America, we, as a nation of 300 million must WORK! If we want government to stop being corrupt, stop spending hours a day watching propaganda (as the average American watches 8 hours of t.v. each day). First, become informed, then you can complain and still garner respect. Last but not least, to become as powerful as we once were, we need to quit individualism temporarily. When everyone is looking to provide for themselves, its easy for government to start multiple wars, spend your money, and do things that the nation disapproves of. But if the nation is fighting to feed its 300 million neighbors, government will quickly realize who is in charge of this country.
Let me be clear that I do not blame Obama nor the government for our current state of affairs...nor do I blame Bush. I blame you. I blame the 300 million American citizens that thought voting for a different politician would change politics. I blame you, the Americans who retained "Hope" in the middle of a rich, black vs. rich, white race. I blame you, the Americans who watch more than you read, allowing new information to constantly pass you by. I blame those of you who arrogantly purport news stories you've heard, forgetting that propaganda has been systematically documented for such channels as FOX, CBS, and CNN. I blame you, Americans, for letting your government do what they wanted while you remained complacent. I blame you, Americans, for complaining while doing nothing. And I blame you, politicians who have let your nation down in every possible manner. We should all be ashamed of ourselves, for while the government dwells on the tragedy of an issue they're not affected by, we sit here and talk about "what if".
If we are truly citizens of the United States, we will take back our country.
-Sanstout
Sunday, March 6, 2011
I'm going to kill someone! A Psychological Note
I won't say names, but he's Indian and his name rhymes with Shmosh. A piece of wisdom was given me by a close friend, Bucchi, when my frustration as a counselor got the better of me. He told me that since I spend my time, heart, and energy on helping others, when they don't take it I should write notes on the situation and not waste my time rather than spending so many resources on lost causes. He told me, "When time passes. So as your solution, it just remains as you and your thinking pattern." Considering I've spent almost a year on my current project, this is hearty advice...especially considering those situations are the hardest to turn away. Let's get on with the info.
Who: An Indian male age 26 and an American female
What: Sleeping on a couch together; she enters in nightgown, bra & panties. Strips down to bra & panties. He tells her to put her clothes back on since its cold. She ignores. She lays next to him on the couch and they start getting intimate. He starts fingering her and she playfully whispers "stop." He stops without question and goes to sleep. She wakes up between 5-7 and goes downstairs, not returning to the room.
Where: In the American female's attic room in Gulf Coast, Mississippi. Lots of hippie decorations.
When: Saturday night after a Mardi Gras parade and many drinks.
Why: A year of lies and excuses away, we've yet to find a valid/sound reason why he talks about "pussy" six days out of seven but never takes the opportunity. Who knows if anything he says anymore is the truth.
His answer tonight: "I was scared she would say something like I forced her or she didn't want it."
And here I was going to talk about the movie I saw, "Law Abiding Citizen". Now Jamie Foxx and Gerard Butler aren't nearly as ripped as 300 or Jarhead, but their acting tops both those movies when Jamie Foxx is the lawyer with a wife and kid trying to put in jail a murderer/rapist of Butler's wife and kid...oh and Butler sees everything to makes matters worse. Long story short, his vengeance is to kill everyone, including the judge who let the rapist/killer out after 5 years while the other prisoner got death for involvement.
So the moral is...would you do something like that? Honestly, I couldn't imagine the poor soul to harm my love. A wife and daughter plus rape? I would make sure every living being died a horrible tortuous death until these pieces of my heart were brought to justice in my eyes...the problem with eyes is that every pair is biased...
Who: An Indian male age 26 and an American female
What: Sleeping on a couch together; she enters in nightgown, bra & panties. Strips down to bra & panties. He tells her to put her clothes back on since its cold. She ignores. She lays next to him on the couch and they start getting intimate. He starts fingering her and she playfully whispers "stop." He stops without question and goes to sleep. She wakes up between 5-7 and goes downstairs, not returning to the room.
Where: In the American female's attic room in Gulf Coast, Mississippi. Lots of hippie decorations.
When: Saturday night after a Mardi Gras parade and many drinks.
Why: A year of lies and excuses away, we've yet to find a valid/sound reason why he talks about "pussy" six days out of seven but never takes the opportunity. Who knows if anything he says anymore is the truth.
His answer tonight: "I was scared she would say something like I forced her or she didn't want it."
And here I was going to talk about the movie I saw, "Law Abiding Citizen". Now Jamie Foxx and Gerard Butler aren't nearly as ripped as 300 or Jarhead, but their acting tops both those movies when Jamie Foxx is the lawyer with a wife and kid trying to put in jail a murderer/rapist of Butler's wife and kid...oh and Butler sees everything to makes matters worse. Long story short, his vengeance is to kill everyone, including the judge who let the rapist/killer out after 5 years while the other prisoner got death for involvement.
So the moral is...would you do something like that? Honestly, I couldn't imagine the poor soul to harm my love. A wife and daughter plus rape? I would make sure every living being died a horrible tortuous death until these pieces of my heart were brought to justice in my eyes...the problem with eyes is that every pair is biased...
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Let's talk about sex, baby!
Let's talk about you and me? How about not. I would, however, like to discuss sex in general and its effect on our population. With this, I have formulated some very basic sex rules.
For starters, sex is a touchy issue to most people and, although we parade sex around in our daily lives, most people feel uncomfortable discussing their personal sex lives...which isn't surprising because statistically, most people on Earth are older adults who's libidos have fallen like the Twin Towers or adolescents and young adults, where turmoil, sexual exploration, and the ability to even have an adult relationship is still in the making. Naturally, this leaves a majority of the world population either not having sex or having sex intermittently, which some may say is even unhealthier than constant sex or none at all.
This culminates to my roommate and his girl having sex tonight. You may ask yourselves, how did he know they had sex and why the example? I came back from the library around 2200 and heard music in my roommate's room while walking in the door. Clue #1) Roommate's gf hates having sex thinking I can hear, so he only puts on room music when they're shagging. But the weird part is...no pleasure and too much thinking.
Maybe its me, but my idea of sex is emotions boiling and the two of us getting passionate and enjoying every second of the touching, teasing, and sliding until climax. from start to finish, sex is unrestrained and uncontainable...at least in my mind. so when i hear a bunch of music, a bed squeaking, a male breathing heavily, and a woman who's talking at a normal tone of voice...i tend to think the sex isnt as great as i imagine it should be.
Rule #1: Make sure (s)he enjoys it (don't be selfish)
meanwhile, amidst trying a new position, because we all need to change things up from time to time, she asks how it feels (she requested the change) and he says, "it feels good, but i don't know how i feel about that feeling good". My god, if there were any more emotions flying around during that sex session, I'd be knocked out until next January.
Rule #2: Sex should be raw and passionate!
Why are you thinking at all during sex? Sex should be a moment where you say, "I love this person so much that their physical beauty is driving me crazy! I want to, I have to, I neeeeed to fuck them," for lack of better words.I've heard of talking dirty or communicating while having sex, but one should never have a conversation in their normal voice during sex EVER! If you want to talk to them, do it AFTER your libido nose-dives...trust me, you have about 20 hours out of the day to do that.
Rule #3: Do what she likes.
So many times, guys just shoot off while leaving their women stranded here on Earth. I'm not saying I'm the longest lasting man alive nor that I'm the best sex on Earth, but if there's one thing I've learned, its not how good you are, but how good you are to her. You see, logically these two are equivalent. Since sexuality is all in the mind, if you're climaxing continuously and your girl is like the only dead flower within the Forbidden Garden, not only are you not paying attention, you're also not pleasing her, which you would know if you'd have paid attention in the first place. A woman can orgasm in two minutes if she likes, or not for months at a time if she so chooses. She also only needs 3 inches to reach her g-spot, so unless you're significantly below average (5.5-7.5 inches erect is a rough average) than its not about what you have, but getting her there.
Rule #4: Get her there beyond any costs!!!
We all may have those nights where we just want to release some tension and get off, not necessarily have a workout required from most guys while performing sex. The problem comes when you analyze male and female differences. Male's sexuality is primed up until around 30, while woman's sexuality doesn't start the races until her late 20's, early 30's. This means that unless you're a young man dating an older woman or an old guy going younger, you probably won't be at your sexual prime at the same time as your lady...which is fine, but this fact must be taken into account.
That said, she needs much more caressing, exploring, and everything from physical to emotional stimulation. Unlike men, she can't think "Here's my man naked...alright, ready for sex", although I'd be remissed if I didn't state how amazing that would be. Thus, since she needs more of everything than you do, make sure she gets it all. Foreplay is key and so is arousal. For those whose women aren't in the mood or wanting any from you for whatever reason, you're in the wrong place; my only answer to that is life happens, suck it up til shes 30.
I hope these simple rules help. I attempt to utilize all these and more, but if there's nothing else taken from this, read that you must be a sharing lover. She's not sexually involved to talk or share stories. She can do that any other day of the week and time of day. When she wants you in bed, take her. Show her you can please her on every level. Then next time I might hear moaning, screaming, and enjoyable sounds coming from the noise-making, bed squeaking darkness next to me.
Alas, I wouldn't be down-talking my roommates inadequate sexual experiences nor giving these rules if the sex heard didn't remind me so much of the sex I've been missing these past few weeks and will continue to miss these next few months. Whats more is that by this point, I dont even want to give my sweetheart a good dicking. I just want to be with and make soft, slow, passionate love to her. If only...
-Piyadasi
For starters, sex is a touchy issue to most people and, although we parade sex around in our daily lives, most people feel uncomfortable discussing their personal sex lives...which isn't surprising because statistically, most people on Earth are older adults who's libidos have fallen like the Twin Towers or adolescents and young adults, where turmoil, sexual exploration, and the ability to even have an adult relationship is still in the making. Naturally, this leaves a majority of the world population either not having sex or having sex intermittently, which some may say is even unhealthier than constant sex or none at all.
This culminates to my roommate and his girl having sex tonight. You may ask yourselves, how did he know they had sex and why the example? I came back from the library around 2200 and heard music in my roommate's room while walking in the door. Clue #1) Roommate's gf hates having sex thinking I can hear, so he only puts on room music when they're shagging. But the weird part is...no pleasure and too much thinking.
Maybe its me, but my idea of sex is emotions boiling and the two of us getting passionate and enjoying every second of the touching, teasing, and sliding until climax. from start to finish, sex is unrestrained and uncontainable...at least in my mind. so when i hear a bunch of music, a bed squeaking, a male breathing heavily, and a woman who's talking at a normal tone of voice...i tend to think the sex isnt as great as i imagine it should be.
Rule #1: Make sure (s)he enjoys it (don't be selfish)
meanwhile, amidst trying a new position, because we all need to change things up from time to time, she asks how it feels (she requested the change) and he says, "it feels good, but i don't know how i feel about that feeling good". My god, if there were any more emotions flying around during that sex session, I'd be knocked out until next January.
Rule #2: Sex should be raw and passionate!
Why are you thinking at all during sex? Sex should be a moment where you say, "I love this person so much that their physical beauty is driving me crazy! I want to, I have to, I neeeeed to fuck them," for lack of better words.I've heard of talking dirty or communicating while having sex, but one should never have a conversation in their normal voice during sex EVER! If you want to talk to them, do it AFTER your libido nose-dives...trust me, you have about 20 hours out of the day to do that.
Rule #3: Do what she likes.
So many times, guys just shoot off while leaving their women stranded here on Earth. I'm not saying I'm the longest lasting man alive nor that I'm the best sex on Earth, but if there's one thing I've learned, its not how good you are, but how good you are to her. You see, logically these two are equivalent. Since sexuality is all in the mind, if you're climaxing continuously and your girl is like the only dead flower within the Forbidden Garden, not only are you not paying attention, you're also not pleasing her, which you would know if you'd have paid attention in the first place. A woman can orgasm in two minutes if she likes, or not for months at a time if she so chooses. She also only needs 3 inches to reach her g-spot, so unless you're significantly below average (5.5-7.5 inches erect is a rough average) than its not about what you have, but getting her there.
Rule #4: Get her there beyond any costs!!!
We all may have those nights where we just want to release some tension and get off, not necessarily have a workout required from most guys while performing sex. The problem comes when you analyze male and female differences. Male's sexuality is primed up until around 30, while woman's sexuality doesn't start the races until her late 20's, early 30's. This means that unless you're a young man dating an older woman or an old guy going younger, you probably won't be at your sexual prime at the same time as your lady...which is fine, but this fact must be taken into account.
That said, she needs much more caressing, exploring, and everything from physical to emotional stimulation. Unlike men, she can't think "Here's my man naked...alright, ready for sex", although I'd be remissed if I didn't state how amazing that would be. Thus, since she needs more of everything than you do, make sure she gets it all. Foreplay is key and so is arousal. For those whose women aren't in the mood or wanting any from you for whatever reason, you're in the wrong place; my only answer to that is life happens, suck it up til shes 30.
I hope these simple rules help. I attempt to utilize all these and more, but if there's nothing else taken from this, read that you must be a sharing lover. She's not sexually involved to talk or share stories. She can do that any other day of the week and time of day. When she wants you in bed, take her. Show her you can please her on every level. Then next time I might hear moaning, screaming, and enjoyable sounds coming from the noise-making, bed squeaking darkness next to me.
Alas, I wouldn't be down-talking my roommates inadequate sexual experiences nor giving these rules if the sex heard didn't remind me so much of the sex I've been missing these past few weeks and will continue to miss these next few months. Whats more is that by this point, I dont even want to give my sweetheart a good dicking. I just want to be with and make soft, slow, passionate love to her. If only...
-Piyadasi
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Les Interactions Sociales
-Venga a nuestro departamento. damos una fiesta! Sé que está con Camila pero viene con ela.
-No. quiero venir pero ella no hace.
-Es un puta
-If you think that...I am.
-A que paso? Camila le ha encambiando! Hace ni lo defiendes!
-hahaha...I am a good boy
-ahh, que lindo
This interaction took place on the 22nd of January 2011, and it is a shining example of how people consistently refuse to do what they want en lieu of another's wishes. At first glance one may ask why in the world would someone sacrifice personal desire for someone else? The common eye may see this interaction and conclude that love is in the air, and a common concept dictates that we do things we don't necessarily want as a core definition of love. I reject these claims with the idea that all personal sacrifices are taken in context for the long-term future anticipatory rewards.
I myself have been a perp in this regard. I can honestly say that I have been in those shoes, skipping large social interactions in exchange for taking care of my sick love or just resting and having a quiet night and she's done the same. We'd like to believe for love of the significant other is why our behavior changes, but its much more easily explained in terms of evolution. If I am with my significant other, I will exchange my short term pleasure because I know that in the future, those social interactions will a) still be there b) not be as rewarding as the possible punishment. Logically, anyone would skip a temporary desire for the knowledge that doing so will create a bond much stronger for the couple's future, aid in sexual advancement, etc. The reasons are limitless, but the endgame remains the same. Our behavior isn't characteristic of altruism, but rather our anticipated rewards.
With that said, the question arises of the necessity of said action and the benefits and costs. I raise these questions because I see it every day in the world, including my own life. When I acquired my new girlfriend, I disappeared off the social network. The proof is that last night was my first hosting a get together at my place since last year. Do I regret it? Absolutely not, because not only do I adore spending time with my love, the bonds created by our togetherness are much stronger than the bonds I could make with a majority of those other friends.
Statistically speaking, five years after we graduate from university, we're likely to be in contact with 3-5 friends from our college years. In 15 years, we will remain in contact with anywhere between 1-3 old college friends. With that said, I feel it is much more important to bide your time and cherish the time spent with the ones you love, because they will ultimately be the ones you promenade into the future with. To those who deem this to be a sheltered and anti-social mindset, it could not be further from the truth. We learn about our world through others as well as ourselves, but at the risk of sounding hypocritical, we, as social creatures must interact. However, we should not condemn those with significant others who choose the wiser long-term rewards instead of conforming to the groups desire to come together and cause a ruckus, for most gatherings in the Northern hemisphere aren't for social interaction, but rather to dull the senses and wits, a shame-faced task to behold or be a part of...said by a piece of the puzzle who has joined, hosted, condoned, and exasperated these problems in the past. But no more...
-No. quiero venir pero ella no hace.
-Es un puta
-If you think that...I am.
-A que paso? Camila le ha encambiando! Hace ni lo defiendes!
-hahaha...I am a good boy
-ahh, que lindo
This interaction took place on the 22nd of January 2011, and it is a shining example of how people consistently refuse to do what they want en lieu of another's wishes. At first glance one may ask why in the world would someone sacrifice personal desire for someone else? The common eye may see this interaction and conclude that love is in the air, and a common concept dictates that we do things we don't necessarily want as a core definition of love. I reject these claims with the idea that all personal sacrifices are taken in context for the long-term future anticipatory rewards.
I myself have been a perp in this regard. I can honestly say that I have been in those shoes, skipping large social interactions in exchange for taking care of my sick love or just resting and having a quiet night and she's done the same. We'd like to believe for love of the significant other is why our behavior changes, but its much more easily explained in terms of evolution. If I am with my significant other, I will exchange my short term pleasure because I know that in the future, those social interactions will a) still be there b) not be as rewarding as the possible punishment. Logically, anyone would skip a temporary desire for the knowledge that doing so will create a bond much stronger for the couple's future, aid in sexual advancement, etc. The reasons are limitless, but the endgame remains the same. Our behavior isn't characteristic of altruism, but rather our anticipated rewards.
With that said, the question arises of the necessity of said action and the benefits and costs. I raise these questions because I see it every day in the world, including my own life. When I acquired my new girlfriend, I disappeared off the social network. The proof is that last night was my first hosting a get together at my place since last year. Do I regret it? Absolutely not, because not only do I adore spending time with my love, the bonds created by our togetherness are much stronger than the bonds I could make with a majority of those other friends.
Statistically speaking, five years after we graduate from university, we're likely to be in contact with 3-5 friends from our college years. In 15 years, we will remain in contact with anywhere between 1-3 old college friends. With that said, I feel it is much more important to bide your time and cherish the time spent with the ones you love, because they will ultimately be the ones you promenade into the future with. To those who deem this to be a sheltered and anti-social mindset, it could not be further from the truth. We learn about our world through others as well as ourselves, but at the risk of sounding hypocritical, we, as social creatures must interact. However, we should not condemn those with significant others who choose the wiser long-term rewards instead of conforming to the groups desire to come together and cause a ruckus, for most gatherings in the Northern hemisphere aren't for social interaction, but rather to dull the senses and wits, a shame-faced task to behold or be a part of...said by a piece of the puzzle who has joined, hosted, condoned, and exasperated these problems in the past. But no more...
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Fear
Necessity of blending causes naught but madness sending.
As a residing student of the University of Southern Mississippi in Mississippi, my goal has always been to examine the human psychology. Like all adolescents and young adults, the time I experienced in these periods exposed me drastically to egocentrism and a renewed infatuation with one’s self, ranging from a zit in your teens to the path one will ultimately choose as they maneuver throughout college and the work force. Therefore, as my first document of true work in my life, I am starting on the research I have the most experience with. Discussed within are the techniques, theories, methods, and results I have culminated on fear-based research in adolescence and young adulthood. By fear-based I mean, the change in behavior or thoughts in response to a socially induced flight instinct. That statement alone says a lot about my technique as a psychologist, student, and human. I have a hypothesis that fear is socially learned, leaning towards the nurture side. At the same time, I believe biology and the sympathetic nervous system exist for a reason and that emotions do not directly correlate with how one’s biology “feels” at the time. As I sit and think about what to write next…I suddenly realize, I’m thinking about what I write. Why do I think? Because I want to put out a respectable paper? How do I create a successful paper? One has other experts look at and accept their research. So why want to put out a respectable paper? To prove one is right? Hubris, in the non-sex allegory, is what strikes me as fascinating. So, let’s go one step further into this illogically logical argument. If emotions are learned, and hubris is the downfall of man, might a lack of emotion and feeling have the contradictory value? That is, All A are B = All H are D. Might a change to Some A are not B = Some H are not D? That is, if some emotions are not learned then some hubris is not the downfall of man? Hypothetically, on a sociological note, we could then, as a human race, try to find the “good hubris” and use it to our advantage to become prosperous as a planet. This is what gives an agnostic hope for all of those who can’t fathom how atheists or those who’s lives aren’t concerned with “God” still has motivation for anything in life. This in turn may create prosperity, not an anarchic world believed to possibly take place if the world were full of “non-believers”.
At this point in time, I would like to point out that, unlike my title, this book is not going to be exactly what it seems. All things I mentioned in the first paragraph will be included, however the true purpose of these words is for the exploration of all levels; from foreign language, domestic trade, & government, to art, music, history, sex, culture, etc. There are so many scopes in this world that so few people choose to peer through. Some prefer non-fiction sports memoirs, some fictional folklore. Some prefer Chinua Achebe, others Dennis Lehane, while some of you reading this won’t know who either are. This world is not formatted or fit into a specific arrangement. As a philosopher, I tribute my book’s lack of order to the disorder of life. Try to keep up; I have done studies and research with thousands of people in over 5 continents. Do people still count Antarctica when talking about population and research? I mean, it can be misleading to say only 5 of 7 continents studied when one of them is uninhabited. Someone might close their mind entirely to the idea simply because of the lack of 100% validity…we all know one of those people.
As a residing student of the University of Southern Mississippi in Mississippi, my goal has always been to examine the human psychology. Like all adolescents and young adults, the time I experienced in these periods exposed me drastically to egocentrism and a renewed infatuation with one’s self, ranging from a zit in your teens to the path one will ultimately choose as they maneuver throughout college and the work force. Therefore, as my first document of true work in my life, I am starting on the research I have the most experience with. Discussed within are the techniques, theories, methods, and results I have culminated on fear-based research in adolescence and young adulthood. By fear-based I mean, the change in behavior or thoughts in response to a socially induced flight instinct. That statement alone says a lot about my technique as a psychologist, student, and human. I have a hypothesis that fear is socially learned, leaning towards the nurture side. At the same time, I believe biology and the sympathetic nervous system exist for a reason and that emotions do not directly correlate with how one’s biology “feels” at the time. As I sit and think about what to write next…I suddenly realize, I’m thinking about what I write. Why do I think? Because I want to put out a respectable paper? How do I create a successful paper? One has other experts look at and accept their research. So why want to put out a respectable paper? To prove one is right? Hubris, in the non-sex allegory, is what strikes me as fascinating. So, let’s go one step further into this illogically logical argument. If emotions are learned, and hubris is the downfall of man, might a lack of emotion and feeling have the contradictory value? That is, All A are B = All H are D. Might a change to Some A are not B = Some H are not D? That is, if some emotions are not learned then some hubris is not the downfall of man? Hypothetically, on a sociological note, we could then, as a human race, try to find the “good hubris” and use it to our advantage to become prosperous as a planet. This is what gives an agnostic hope for all of those who can’t fathom how atheists or those who’s lives aren’t concerned with “God” still has motivation for anything in life. This in turn may create prosperity, not an anarchic world believed to possibly take place if the world were full of “non-believers”.
At this point in time, I would like to point out that, unlike my title, this book is not going to be exactly what it seems. All things I mentioned in the first paragraph will be included, however the true purpose of these words is for the exploration of all levels; from foreign language, domestic trade, & government, to art, music, history, sex, culture, etc. There are so many scopes in this world that so few people choose to peer through. Some prefer non-fiction sports memoirs, some fictional folklore. Some prefer Chinua Achebe, others Dennis Lehane, while some of you reading this won’t know who either are. This world is not formatted or fit into a specific arrangement. As a philosopher, I tribute my book’s lack of order to the disorder of life. Try to keep up; I have done studies and research with thousands of people in over 5 continents. Do people still count Antarctica when talking about population and research? I mean, it can be misleading to say only 5 of 7 continents studied when one of them is uninhabited. Someone might close their mind entirely to the idea simply because of the lack of 100% validity…we all know one of those people.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Mating Patterns
The most common form of mating in mammals is polygyny. However, the issue arises when society evolves and with evolution comes availability to openly call for change. A majority of "Western women" and eastern women, respectively demand for one male mate with whom to spend their lives, and fully expect him to keep only her for his life. This is clearly a necessity she has the ability to demand; we are not in an evolutionary crisis, therefore our value as men goes down. However, with women gains come gains for men, and this leaves us all with a power-hungry controlled world with the beauty of evolution.
I take myself for example. I have been seeing this married woman for quite awhile. The sex is good, attention great, and attachment indescribably painful. I am a man who is at least half run by instinct through evolution. The most common way an animal with my biology has is to be with multiple women; not spending my entire nights with her. I may have logic in this point if it weren't for my loving the attention she gives me. I love sex and the narcissistic streak runs rapid through my veins, so reproductive need is conveniently seen as less useful.
I can get everything I want that satisfies all pleasure centers, but to do so must come at the cost of between 6 and 8 hours a day with her. Such a large margin of the day, it only seems fair I should get all I want, right? After all, I'm going against my instinctive nature.
I take myself for example. I have been seeing this married woman for quite awhile. The sex is good, attention great, and attachment indescribably painful. I am a man who is at least half run by instinct through evolution. The most common way an animal with my biology has is to be with multiple women; not spending my entire nights with her. I may have logic in this point if it weren't for my loving the attention she gives me. I love sex and the narcissistic streak runs rapid through my veins, so reproductive need is conveniently seen as less useful.
I can get everything I want that satisfies all pleasure centers, but to do so must come at the cost of between 6 and 8 hours a day with her. Such a large margin of the day, it only seems fair I should get all I want, right? After all, I'm going against my instinctive nature.
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